New Men’s Groups

These are groups that are in the process of forming, and may or may not have a specific orientation at the time the listing was placed. Please notify us of any groups that are no longer seeking new members.

Sonoma County — Gay Men’s Group

Orientation: Many gay men grow up with the deep-seated sense that there is something wrong with them. The burden of this erroneous story leads to strategic ways of living that inevitably cause a disconnection from oneself and others. With few venues to connect with other gay men in meaningful ways, too many feel outcast and alone. This gay men’s group will focus on the issues of deep concern to gay men, including relationships, family, sexuality, shame, depression, anxiety, negative self-image, cultural expectations and more.  COME CO-CREATE A SAFE SPACE with other men in which you can discover a new sense of connection and belonging.

When and Where: Tuesdays, 5:00-6:30pm. Private psychotherapy office in Santa Rosa. Fee $35-$40.  Contact: Sil Machado, Ph.D. at (707) 529-3021.

Sonoma County — Disconnection, Isolation

Orientation: This group is for men who experience, and wish to do something about any or all of the following concerns:

• I feel isolated from myself, my partner, family, friends, and community.
• I feel disconnected from my hopes, desires and passions.
• I find myself avoiding conflicts that are important to me.
• It is difficult for me to notice, identify and express what I feel.
• It is difficult for me to trust others.
• I wish to have more energy, enthusiasm and vitality in my life.
• I want to be a better father, son, partner, brother, friend.

In weekly small group sessions, we will share our experiences with these concerns, while exploring and developing our human capacities for interest and enthusiasm; enjoyment and joy; humor; compassion; courage; resilience and fierceness; integrity; intimacy and connection. This is facilitated group process format, which allows men to explore their vulnerabilities and concerns in a safe, confidential, compassionate and contained environment with other similarly concerned and focused men.

When and Where: The group meets the first three Tuesdays of the month, from 6:30 to 8:00pm at 501 2nd Street (corner of 2nd and G), Petaluma. Cost is $35 per meeting. This is an on-going group with an initial three month commitment required. A Wednesday group is also possible if enough people express interest in it.
Contact: Don Waxman, MFT at 707-585-2334. To learn more about Don, visit his website at

Sonoma County — What Is Awakening Is You

Orientation: This journey will take place in the glorious wilderness of Austin Creek State park, just outside of Guerneville. We will descend into a rich and verdant land where deer, turkeys, wild pigs, coyotes, and mountain lions make their home. The weekend offers an exquisite blend of vision quest, group process, fun competition, hiking, and music circles designed to allow us to feel and express our natural rhythm.

When and Where: Weekend retreats scheduled throughout the year. The cost for the weekend (includes camp site and activities): $50. To reserve your space, send a check for $50 made out to “Sahar,” to 164 Florence Ave,. Sebastopol, 95472. Number of attendees: a minimum of 4 to a maximum of 8 men. This is a sober event. Contact: Sahar Pinkham CHT by calling (707) 824-1796 or emailing

Sonoma County — A Course for Teen Young Men

Orientation: This window in a male’s life between childhood and manhood can, to him, seem like an eternity. He now hears the voices of opinion and self-determination within him. His quest deepens for a greater sense of identity. He looks upon the world and hears the inner stirrings of ‘what is my voice in all of this?”  In this series of 6 evenings of 2 1/2 hours each opportunities to address areas of life rarely explored by them will be offered.  From physical challenges and “trust” games to group topics to one-on-one exploration of specific aspects of their humanity. Issues of: Competition: what is healthy/unhealthy? How can we experience mutual support? Isolation: what beliefs and behaviors sabotage my desire for connection? What to do? Vision and purpose: how do I determine which inner voices are truest to me? Intimacy: develop communication skills allowing for greater understanding and sharing.

When and Where: Series of 6 evenings, 2 1/2 hours each. Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday evenings from 7 to 9:30pm, in-town Sebastopol. Please contact me with your 2 preferred times. Courses starting throughout the year. Contact: Sahar Pinkham CHT. (707) 824-1796. The cost is $100. [04/06]

Sonoma County — Exploring the Male Heart

Orientation: Do you yearn for the support and connection that men can share? This series is designed to assist participants in; Identifying behaviors that can sabotage relationships; Expressing our truth in a way that promotes better communication; Developing greater awareness of our unique gifts and beauty.

When and Where: This 8 week series will be held in-town Sebastopol. Courses start throughout the year. Cost is $150. Contact: Sahar Pinkham, CHT, has facilitated support groups for 29 years and has been in practice as a hypnotherapist, counselor, and reiki practitioner for 20 years while also teaching hand drumming as a tool for well-being. Please call (707) 824-1796 or email for more information.

Sonoma County — Abuse(d) No More

Orientation: Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to lift a hand or use demeaning words to be abusive/violent/disrespectful to your loved ones – and vice versa.. Abusive behavior causes a loss of respect, trust and consequently the nurturing love and intimacy that we all need and want. Come learn how to recognize and end all forms of abuse in your life. You’ll be amazed at the impact it will have on everything you think, feel, say and do.

When and Where: To meet in Sebastopol every other Wednesday night, 7:30pm to 9:30pm starting in June. Contact: J. Ashi Olshan, former facilitator of the Marin Abused Women’s Services Men’s Program, Manalive. Email: [05/06]

Marin County — Get Real Men’s Group

Orientation: Men experience success in their lives when they are powerful, present, and clear. Conscious presence makes a man accomplished, attractive, and trustworthy. The world responds openly to clear masculine presence. Masculinity is deepened through compassionate feedback and challenge of men. This group provides the necessary structure to make decisions, stay on task and overcome obstacles.

When and Where: Bi-weekly meetings in San Rafael, Mondays 6:30-9:00pm. 12 week commitment. New monthly 2nd Saturday group forming — call for details. Contact: Richard Platt, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Professional Coach. For over 15 years Richard has facilitated personal transformation. He founded Passion & Purpose, a practice dedicated to creating conscious partnerships. Richard guides clients to individuate and develop personal power while creating intimacy. Call 415-760-8541 or visit

Sonoma County — Fathering a Child

Orientation: Open to all men who have a fathering/mentoring relationship with children in their lives, either biological, step or friendship. Raising a son or daughter in these times is an awesome undertaking and a huge opportunity. As fathers/mentors we live with important questions about our roles. How am I guiding this child? What is a mentor? What am I passing on to my son/daughter/ friend that I am aware of? What am I passing on that I am unaware of. In the company of other men, we will explore these and other questions. We will brew a collective alchemy from which to draw strength and inspiration. By speaking our truth and going deeply, we will support and learn from each other.

When and Where: Once a week, weekday evenings in Sebastopol. Contact: Russell Sutter’s office at 707-547-3737